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Learn from The Divorce Experts: Susan Allan; Mark Patt, Esq., Managing Partner, Trope and Trope; Deanie Kramer, Mediator, "Divorce Court TV" and founder of Divorce Resource; Michael Krycler, C.P.A., Founder of Krycler, Ervin, Schreiber & Walheim; Sally Franz, Youth Minister & author; William Stierle, Corporate Culture Development; Rev. Bernard Goodman, Psychic healer & author

STAGE V EPIPHANY

EPIPHANY is a sudden manifestation of the essence or meaning of something. In divorce, one EPIPHANY may relate to our freedom or to the realization of our own growth.

Once you have worked through the first four STAGES of DIVORCE; Panic, Denial, Agony and Rage, you are free. You are not free because you will never have those feelings again; you are free because you will never be controlled by them again. Once you realize that it is not the circumstances that create your pain, you are on the path to EPIPHANY. When you see that it is your thoughts about your situation, you are halfway to PEACE. When a situation falls below our expectations, we are encouraged to fight, avoid or resist. When we accept life; that is an EPIPHANY. After acceptance, we are free to take action.

Please send your questions to susanallan@thedivorceforum.com

Dear Divorce Coach©,

I finally realized I can't do this any more. I can't spend the rest of my life in this marriage! I'm afraid of divorce but I'm more afraid of the alternative. Can I get a "quickie divorce"?

Signed,

Quickie Please

Dear Quickie,

Deanie Kramer, "Divorce Court" TV mediator and speaker at The Divorce Forum™ reports that "you can purchase the book How to do Your Own Divorce in CA by Ed Sherman published by NOLO Press which has all of the necessary forms and information." Ms. Kramer is the founder of Divorce Resource, should you prefer a paralegal firm to file your papers for you. Once you have begun discussions with your husband, you will discover if you can accomplish an uncontested divorce or whether you need professional support. Before discussions with your husband, I strongly urge you to confer with your accountant to learn the financial divorce formula that will affect your case.

Sincerely,

The Divorce Coach©

Dear Divorce Coach©,

My wife and I have been growing apart for years. The nest is now empty and we have suddenly realized our marriage is in trouble. Is there some way to reconnect that really works?

Signed,

Not resigned

Dear Not Resigned,

The shift from comfort and co-parenting to recreating your marriage requires new skills. Visit www.cnvc.org ,Center for Nonviolent Communication, to read about feelings and needs as you rediscover what brought you together, kept you together, and continues to bind you to one another.

Sincerely,

The Divorce Coach©